Sunday, July 14, 2013

Saying Goodbye to Cory Monteith


I don’t know exactly why Cory Monteith’s death is producing such deep, profound and unmitigated sadness in me. Of course the death of those who pass too young is always heartbreaking. Of course it is even more so when you know the death is avoidable, such as is the case when addiction or mental illness takes them from us. And of course, I was and am a big fan of Glee. But the depth of feeling I have in relation to Cory’s untimely demise goes beyond that. I mean, as a fan of Angel I’ve had to deal with the death of two of its stars far before they should have left this earth, and lord knows I’m a bigger Whedonite than I am a Gleek. 
Part of it, I think, is having watched the journey that Cory’s character Finn Hudson had taken and what his character’s growth meant to the scores of young people who watched the show. Finn showed that you could be cool and be into singing show tunes. He came back from devastating personal blows (his best friend got his girlfriend pregnant, his wedding to his next girlfriend didn’t happen, he essentially flunked out of the military) to finally find a path that had the potential to lead him in the right direction. Finn decided he wanted to be a teacher, and this plot development on Glee happened right around the time that the news broke that Cory was reentering rehab. Having successfully combatted addiction as a teenager, at the urging of friends and family (and long before he was famous), Cory was unusually forthcoming about his struggles and brutally honest about the fact that he once again needed help. The fact that the character with which he will now always and only be associated also had struggled and found the help he needed (but would undoubtedly have had a happier ending than Cory) just breaks my heart.
I have read posts by some uncharitable people who say that addiction is a weakness, that it was stupid of Cory to get back into the drugs that would ultimately take his life. Those people are wrong, plain and simple. People don’t choose to become addicts, and they certainly don’t choose to die from overdosing on drugs or alcohol. Addiction is a disease, not a choice. It isn’t as simple as “Just say no” (one of myriad reasons why I refuse to give money to anti-drug-and-alcohol programs that take this grossly simplistic approach). Something in the psychological and physical wiring and chemistry of addicts is different, something about them creates a dependency that in the rest of us would only at worst lead to some pictures we’d rather forget and at best an evening or two we can’t remember. As Cory himself acknowledged in several interviews, his need for drugs didn’t stem from a desire to have a good time.  It was a response to a deep, terrifying loneliness that made him feel different from everyone else around him. Drugs provided an escape and a way to not be Cory for a little while, and because of his underlying medical and psychological issues he became an addict. Ironically, it was the fact that his character Finn was so different from this, at least before more depth and layers were added to his persona, which drove Cory to come forward three years ago and share his troubled past.
Glee has dealt with a number of important issues that are often on the minds of its young fan base (and some of us older Gleeks, too)- coming out as gay and transgender, teen pregnancy, illness in a parent, homelessness, betrayal of friendship, and not knowing what one wants from one’s future. Some of my younger friends are wondering if the show will be cancelled now, but I would be surprised if that were the case. That old adage “the show must go on” isn’t just about Broadway, and the Glee franchise is a multimillion dollar business that employs hundreds of people whose lives will go on even if Cory’s will not. My hope is that Finn is written out of the show as having gone to get his teaching degree at some far-away college, and Ryan Murphy and his team will elegantly write some sort of graceful closure for Rachel, Finn’s Glee soul mate (I can’t even begin to address how poor Lea Michelle, Cory’s real-life fiancée, will deal with this). But then I hope they will take it one step further. I hope that they will have one of the characters on the show struggle with addiction and lose the battle; no neat solutions or loose ends tidily cleaned up within the 44 minutes of the show. And I hope they then spend a good, long time focusing on how this affects those left behind, how addiction hurts those who never even touch drugs or alcohol at least as much as it harms the addicts themselves. If that keeps one Glee fan from starting down the road to addiction, if it makes one viewer who is already addicted seek treatment, if it offers comfort to one family member of a deceased addict who can say, “I’m not struggling with my loss alone,” then Glee will truly have moved on from just being a show about good-looking kids with nice voices.
Rest in peace, Cory. Thank you for returning the compliment when I told you that you had nice teeth. Thank you for creating an iconic character who brought a lot of good into the lives of many fans who need role models like Finn Hudson. And thank you, I hope, for providing an inspiration by negative example through your death. It would be better to still have you with us, but since we can’t I hope your legacy is that you made people happy in life and thoughtful in death.

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